My “Official” Introduction:
Stephen Hilgart - My Story
My “Unofficial” Introduction
After struggling for way too long to write one of those fancy 3rd-person biographies that makes people sound so important… I gave up and decided to just write this as if it was a letter to a friend… which in many ways, it is.
So let’s start with the basics:
WHO THE HELL IS THIS GUY?
I’m originally from Minneapolis, Minnesota. I’m 6’1″. Aries. I enjoy long walks on the beach… but I guess you’re not really here for that... If you had two words to describe me they are humor and heart.
In other words, I’m hilarious (at least my mom thinks I’m funny…), and I actually give a shit.
…oh, and I cuss occasionally.
I suppose I should warn you up front: If you’re easily offended — we’re never going to be friends.
But if you have a sense of humor and you actually care about improving your own life, the life of your family, your friends, your business… my guess is we’re going to get along just fine!
I believe if you’re not having fun in life, you’re doing something wrong.
Tony taught me, “pain in life is inevitable… but suffering is a choice.”
No matter what happens to us in life, we have the ability to respond to it.
I choose to respond with love, laughter, and joy.
He calls it “living in a beautiful state” … but whatever you call it, I’m all about it.
… BUT IT WASN’T ALWAYS THIS WAY …
If they ever tell my tale, the opening line would be “he was born kicking and screaming… and he never stopped.”
I started training in the martial arts at a very young age. It was kind of my thing.
By about 16 years old I was traveling the country (and sometimes the world) to compete in tournaments all over the place and, believe it or not, I won.
In the back of my mind I was thinking “I’m going to be the next Jackie Chan!” while all my schoolmates talked about how they wanted to be doctors, or lawyers, or police officers, I was talking about how I wanted to be a Ninja Turtle. But here’s the thing, no matter how well I did, there was no UFC at that point. The most money I ever made was $750.00.
Can we all say, “…woohoo.”
So I believed there was only two options: open a karate school and become a teacher… or go be…
A MOVIE STAR!
So right after graduating high school I moved down to Chicago to train with the rest of my team and try to make a go of this thing…
… except really long story short: things didn’t go as planned.
And once the money, opportunity, and desire ran out… I found myself homeless in Chicago for almost 2 years.
I spent most of my time sleeping out of the back of my car and surviving on the charity of my instructor (thanks for putting up with me, Sensei).
As you can imagine, things started to spiral out of control.
I became ultra depressed, I was sick all of the time, I was completely miserable, couldn’t get a date to save my life — it was a little rough.
Could I have worked? Absolutely. But I didn’t.
Could I have asked for help? Definitely. But I didn’t.
Could I have just gone home? You betcha …but I didn’t.
To put it simply, my psychological and emotional state was in such a shit place that it was impossible for me to see the forest through the trees. I just hoped things were going to work out for me — even when I had stopped working for it.
SO WHAT HAPPENS?
Of course, I hear about this Tony Robbins guy.
“Tony Robbins, change your life!” and “Tony Robbins, drink the kool-aid!”
And can you take a guess what I said? “Let’s dive right in!”
I said “self help crap? nobody needs that. that’s for stupid people.”
So I’d love to say I was so inspired to change my life that I sought it out, but no, I was desperate.
LET ME SET THE SCENE:
It’s 2 years later. February in Chicago. It’s -30° (yes, 30 BELOW zero). I can’t sleep in my car that night because it was too cold and I couldn’t sleep at the dojo because there were classes still going on.
So I ended up walking through the Barnes & Nobles in Naperville, Illinois and I see a little book on the shelf called “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins.
I remember that moment to this day.
The book was $20 and take a wild guess how much I had in my pocket that night?
You guessed it, $20. Too freaking weird. Divine intervention. The universe talking to me. Whatever you want to call it but here’s the only problem:
That was the last of my food money.
I DIDN’T EAT FOR 2 WEEKS BUT I READ THAT BOOK, MAN.
Over and over and over and over.
The first couple paragraphs in that book Tony talks about how he’s flying in his jet helicopter from L.A. to Orange County to put on a seminar — and stops and hovers above a building he recognizes as the same building he worked in as a janitor just 10 years before.
“What a difference a decade can make!”
He talked about how he was living in his 1960s Volkswagen Bug without a reverse… and I read that while I was living in my 1994 Pontiac Grand Am that — when it rained — it rained more on the inside the car… and during the winter that rain froze. Caused all kinds of fun troubles.
He talked about how he was crying his eyes out because he felt like his life didn’t matter. He felt like he was so much more than he was demonstrating.
The first couple paragraphs hit me so god damn hard I was crying by page 2.
I made a promise at that point to myself — and I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone this — but I said “if I can just figure this shit out I’m going to help as many other people figure it out as possible because no one should have to ever feel this way.”
I kept that commitment. But before I could help anybody else…
I HAD TO HELP MYSELF, FIRST.
I moved back to Minnesota and got my shit together.
I mended relationships that needed mending.
I transformed my health.
I worked 5 jobs, put away some cash.
Found the money (thanks to one of those gracious investor types) to open my own karate school.
It went well.
I sold that business some 8 years ago now and hit the road because my dream was to travel.
It’s been a little over 60 countries now, lived in 7 of them, built 2 more businesses on the road.
I say all of this not to pound on my chest and tell you how great I am, I tell you this to let you know — I owe this Tony Robbins guy a lot.
Not just my financial and business success but the deep relationships I now have with my family and friends. And more importantly the relationship I have with myself.
And it’s funny how life works, right?
It came full circle a few years ago when I came back to the States to work for Tony as his national trainer.
I speak on his behalf all day, every day.
So I suppose I should answer the simple question:
“IS THIS HILGART GUY WORTH MY TIME AND ATTENTION?”
For most people, the answer is NO.
I’m one of the strange breeds of humans they call an entrepreneur.
I can’t even fathom sitting behind a desk at a job that I hate for 50 years hoping for some kind of retirement plan to kick in just so I can wait around to die.
I can’t imagine not having goals and dreams — things I want to do and be and have in this life.
I can’t imagine settling for less than I could be.
If that’s you… if you’re looking to settle… if you’re comfortable where you’re at…
IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR THE EASY WAY, I DON’T WANT TO HELP YOU.
I can help you, I just won’t. I’m capable of it, but I refuse to do it.
Because when I hear someone is willing to settle for less than they could be it tells me they lack the one and only thing required for lasting change:
See we don’t get what we want in life. We don’t get our goals. We don’t get what we deserve. We don’t get what other people think we deserve. We only get what we’re committed to.
If that doesn’t jive you with — well, this is my little piece of the internet so you’re welcome to move on.
… but if you’re hungry… if you know there’s more out there… if you know you have endless potential inside of you… if you know that you can be, do, have, and achieve anything you want in this world for yourself and your family — then I’ve got something for you.
AND HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM ME:
- Actionable Strategies and Tactics you can apply immediately to improve your business and your life, for free… which are usually followed by
- Blatant Sales Pitches
Can you believe I just told you that you’re going to receive blatant sales pitches from me?
Well, why wouldn’t I tell you?
I know there’s far too many sleazy people out there pretending to be your best friend just so they can suck value out of your pocket but that’s not how I operate.
Tony taught me (and he was very clear about this one… and loud…), “your job for me is not to be everyone’s friend, it’s to change their fucking life.”
You won’t get any bait-and-switch bullshit around here.
However – I believe in the 90-10 rule.
You get 90 I get 10.
Long before I ever ask you to step up and make a commitment to improve yourself, it’s always preceded by really valuable strategies and tactics you can use immediately.
The idea is you’ll say, “Man, this free stuff really helped me. I think I’ll try the paid stuff.”
Pretty simple, right?
I learned this trick from another one of my mentors. He calls it the old “Demonstrate You Can Help Them By Actually Helping Them” trick.
Works like a charm.
But you still might be wondering …
HOW DO I KNOW IF YOUR STUFF IS ANY GOOD?
At this point I’ve done some 2,500 live trainings for this Tony Robbins guy.
You can see the names of all the companies somewhere here on my site… but I guess what I *can* say is they keep inviting me back… and every time I go back their business has grown by leaps and bounds.
What I’d suggest is checking out some of the stuff here on the site. I’ve got some guides, articles, and of course links to my videos, podcasts, trainings, and all kinds of stuff.
AND there’s a good chance if you’re a part of a major company, I’ve trained someone in that company… someone you know might even know me personally!
Kinda cool, right?
High achievers are all one big happy family, anyways.
Check it out, see if you can put up with my sense of humor, and see if you find something useful.
HERE’S HOW I CAN HELP YOU SPECIFICALLY:
My main focus is helping businesses optimize and maximize their results.
And, more than likely, the most effective way I can do that for you is by coming out and doing a live training for your team… and as long as it makes sense, I’ll even do that for free.
- If your team is struggling to hit sales quotas, or they are frustrated with their results, or maybe they’re just hungry for more… that’s a good time to bring me in.
- If you need a keynote speaker for some big event. I can put on the suit and tie and sound pretty professional (and you won’t have to pay Tony millions of dollars… just call me “mini Robbins”)
- If you’d like to continue your education with Tony and myself, we have these big seminars called Unleash the Power Within and if you want I’ll put together a special package for your whole team to come and transform their entire lives!
HERE’S MY FIRST SALES PITCH TO YOU:
Go and read some of the articles on my site.
If you like them, sign up for some of my free trainings.
If they help you, consider buying my stuff when I make you an offer.
Pretty simple, right?
Thanks for taking the time to read my story… but I think it’s about time we get to work!
National Trainer for Tony Robbins