If You Believe You Can… You Can… If You Believe You Can’t…
I just finished a success talk with the young men and women at a local elementary school. We spoke about several subjects but one of the most important ones we spoke about was BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
I know this idea has been visited time and time again. So much so that we ignore it like a cheesey info-mercial product. But it definitely needs to be brought up again. I often hear “I know that already,” or “Yeah, yeah.” Well the key to living an Extraordinary Life instead of just an ordinary one is to master the things we are taught instead of just ‘understanding’ them.
“If I believe it, I can achieve it.”
This old addage becomes even more self-evident when we look at what is gong on in our world now. With the economy in shambles, jobs dissappearing overnight it is even more important that we believe ‘it CAN be done’.
Whatever we really believe becomes real… at least in our reality. And our reality (or how we see the world) is always real to us. Every time we say “I can’t do this,” it becomes more real until it consumes your reality. The brain shuts down, solutions dissappear and it becomes true.
The brain responds to questions, if instead of saying “I can’t do this,” ask it a better quality of question like “How can I do this?”
When I recently asked a group of teenagers “How in the world could I move a house by myself?” The answers first came back a little silly…
“If you were super strong you could do it!”
“If you were super man!”
But then they stopped joking and started to come up with some pretty interesting answers…
“Well if you had a crane…”
“You could put it on a truck!”
“You could take it apart and put it back together!”
“If you had a big enough lever I bet you could do it!”
So to believe that it can be done is the first step. The ‘HOW’s’ usually come afterward. “But,” you say, “I don’t know how!” Well once again, once you just start asking a better quality of question such has “How can I?” The answers magically reveal themselves.
Bullies All Grown Up
If I were to ask you right now, “Have you ever been bullied?” I am sure that you would respond “Yes, absolutely.” We all have at one point in our lives. But when you were cutting gum out of your hair or wiping the dust off your clothes in the 3rd grade you just thought it was because it was 3rd grade! Well what do you think happens to those bullies as you get older? Do they just stay to terrorize the 3rd grade? Of course not! They get older as well! So as you get older you must understand that bullies don’t go away, they get bigger, and stronger, and more devious. Bullies will never go away. What might start as teasing in gradeschool turns into harrassment in the office, being taken advantage of in your social life, promotions YOU should have received for your hard work, things being stolen from you, and many, many more dastardly deeds. Yes, unfortunately bullies will never go away, but there is a sure fire way to beat them once and for all.
Believing in yourself!
Yes, again, it sounds cheesey. But when you really look at this sentence closer you start to realize that no one can hurt you without your permission. If you believe in yourself you can stand up to the bullies, fight the injust, create new opportunities for yourself and others, and keep everything you have worked so hard for.
Oh, I know, it can sometimes be difficult. As soon as you think you have the upper hand, another bully will stand behind your chair and swipe it out from underneath you. But instead of lying on the ground with those big tears in your eyes, you now understand something different. You understand that you won’t take this and it definitely won’t happen again!
The words that people say are just as important to defend yourself from. When people say you are bad, terrible, wrong, that you can’t do something, you can decide to believe in them and shut yourself down, or you can decide to believe in yourself and shut them up!
What do you think about believing in yourself?
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